What made you believe your worth depended on other people’s approval — their attention, their validation, or their love?

One of the biggest patterns I see is this desperate need we have to chase —
to convince, to prove, to beg for scraps of recognition from people who wouldn’t even notice if you disappeared tomorrow.

But here’s what I’ve learned — and what I want you to know.
The moment you stop chasing, the moment you turn that energy inward and start becoming the person you would be proud to know, everything changes.
Not slightly.
Dramatically – Fundamentally and Permanently.

When I started to truly embody this, it shifted everything.
I realised all the energy I spent trying to be liked, noticed, or validated could have been used to build myself.
To grow. To create. To become someone I deeply respected.

How much of your mental energy goes into wondering what others think of you?
Crafting the perfect text, the perfect reply, the perfect version of yourself to win approval?

The truth is — most people aren’t thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are.
While you’re overanalysing their silence, they’ve already moved on.
👉You’re renting out your peace of mind to people who don’t even live there.

✨Focusing on yourself isn’t selfish.
✨It’s necessary.
✨It’s how you reclaim your power and redirect it into something real.

When you stop scattering your energy trying to please everyone, you can finally concentrate that power into becoming someone extraordinary.

The people who live extraordinary lives have learned something vital:
there’s a time for connection, and a time for concentration.
They don’t confuse the two.

So ask yourself —
👉 What or who do you need to let go of?
And if you don’t…
what will it cost you?

“Choosing yourself isn’t the end of love — it’s where real love begins.” 💜

Peace, Love and Happiness x

Mimi Bland 💜
Elite Mindset Strategist